I felt familiar angst.
My post holiday work schedule climbed quickly to overdrive.
I needed to work, attend meetings and events, write a grant, clean, pack the house, buy groceries, feed the family, transport Son-2 to various appointments, tackle to-do lists, juggle the finances.
And carry the laundry. Always laundry.
We miss each other when a schedule shift happens or my calendar is full. I think he liked having me around at Christmas and New Years. I worried that me working late four days in a row right away as the new year begins will annoy him.
Before ALS we could divide and tackle more of the house work. Once upon a time we did not need to think about what he physically can or can not do, or where he can physically handle going without help.
My hours are jagged with early and late variance. I never have had a clock in, clock out type job. I imagine it’s not easy for someone to live with me and guess what my week will be like.
His jobs in the past all had clear start/stop times.
So I brace for possible grumpiness.
I stress that we might struggle to transition back into a busy season.
In an attempt to head off an argument or avoid sassy words, I bring up my hope that we can deal well with me being on the move again.
He responds with, “I’m good. I know you have too much on your plate–and too many plates to manage. Grace extended.”
Those are some hot husband words right there.
One time I heard a pastor talk about when life gets hard you can either get bitter or get better.
Hubby could complain all day given his physical pain, but he does not.
In fact, he has only grown kinder since diagnosis.
Considering your partner’s perspective is one of the most attractive things someone can do.
I am grateful.
Romans 12:10 Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.