I hugged our snowman tree this week.
Mr. No-Name-Snowman is prickly but part of the family and the right height.
I miss simple things like Hubby being able to stand for a hug. The hair band Cinderella was right about some things, “Don’t know what you got till it’s gone.”
Fortunately Hubby is not gone. We find new ways to connect. I have heard that long marriages are like several marriages in one. I believe that. We are in a new act of our musical.
Last month we agreed to begin a two person book club. We have Hoopla to download free library audio books. Hubby picked the first one.
We took multiple weeks to independently finish The Flight Girls by author Noelle Salazar. It is a love story and about women in aviation during World War II. I started over once because I had a hard time remembering who was who among the character names. Once I re-listened to the first nine chapters, then I engaged eagerly to find out how the story ends.
We checked in with one another about chapter progress. I pondered how our book review would go. This is a totally new activity for us together as a couple.
I remembered one of the best lessons I know about marriage dreams: tell your spouse exactly what you visualize happening in the new fun. Do not assume they will know. What do I want?
“You write three questions about the book, and I’ll write three questions,” I share. “No random trivia unless beyond the three questions that promote conversation. No yes/no asks. The goal is we have a nice dinner and talk about the book. We’ll light a candle or go to a handicap accessible restaurant. Cool?”
He agrees. We finish the book. We write our questions. I set the scene for a quiet dinner. He did not feel physically up to going out. We create an indoor picnic.
We compared observations from the book as we took turns answering one another’s questions. Spending time enjoying one another’s thoughts warmed my soul.
Our home was quiet other than our words and the occasional pop of a candle. It was a good night to look into his blue eyes.
Colossians 3:14: “And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.”